Not too many regrets – from Alexander’s Daddy

Alexander’s Daddy submitted this entry

 

Often we hear of people having regrets when a family member dies.  They regret not spending time with their loved one or not telling them they love them.

 

I have very few such regrets about my time with Alexander, except that I didn’t have 40 more years with him.

 

Though my job causes me to travel quite a bit, it was never excessive and I generally wasn’t away more than 2 nights a week.  

 

I played with him almost every night;

Read to him;

Rough-housed with him;

Bathed him;

Watched TV with him; and

Wrote a song and sang it to him every day.  

 

We went out to dinner,

Travelled around the country

Went to arts events;

Went to the drive-in; and

Went to parties.

 

We Made Christmas cookies;

Went trick or treating;

Had a big birthday party;

Saw New Year’s fireworks; and

Got dressed up for Easter brunch.

 

Took a hayride;

We took swimming lessons;

Threw the ball;

Visited the barbershop (but not for a haircut for him);

Took walks in the city; and

Played in the park.

 

I kissed,

Hugged,

Dressed,

Held,

Changed, and

Slept with him

 

I went to his tear duct surgery and

Went to a few doctor’s check-ups, and

I looked after him by myself whenever mommy was out at a volunteer session.

 

After thinking about it the only regret I do have was the time I spent with him on weekend mornings lying around watching TV instead of taking him out to play in the park or visit the zoo.  

 

I lost a lot with Alexander’s passing but I do have left many memories of activities, play and time with him, and not too many regrets.