Alexander’s Daddy submitted this entry
Often we hear of people having regrets when a family member dies. They regret not spending time with their loved one or not telling them they love them.
I have very few such regrets about my time with Alexander, except that I didn’t have 40 more years with him.
Though my job causes me to travel quite a bit, it was never excessive and I generally wasn’t away more than 2 nights a week.
I played with him almost every night;
Read to him;
Rough-housed with him;
Watched TV with him; and
Wrote a song and sang it to him every day.
We went out to dinner,
Travelled around the country
Went to arts events;
Went to the drive-in; and
Went to parties.
We Made Christmas cookies;
Went trick or treating;
Had a big birthday party;
Saw New Year’s fireworks; and
Got dressed up for Easter brunch.
Took a hayride;
We took swimming lessons;
Threw the ball;
Visited the barbershop (but not for a haircut for him);
Took walks in the city; and
Played in the park.
Slept with him
I went to his tear duct surgery and
Went to a few doctor’s check-ups, and
I looked after him by myself whenever mommy was out at a volunteer session.
After thinking about it the only regret I do have was the time I spent with him on weekend mornings lying around watching TV instead of taking him out to play in the park or visit the zoo.
I lost a lot with Alexander’s passing but I do have left many memories of activities, play and time with him, and not too many regrets.